Knowing better. Doing better.

Dr. Carli Blau, PhD, LCSW, is a New York–based sex therapist and creator of The Blau Method, an accountability-based framework that turns insight into lasting change. She founded Boutique Psychotherapy in Manhattan and is the author of the forthcoming book How Dare You. She posts as @SexDocCarli.

Dr. Carli Blau, PhD, LCSW, is a sex therapist and relationship expert who works on one question: why do people know better and still not do better? A licensed clinician since 2015, she treats desire discrepancies, sexual pain and dysfunction, infertility stress, and the quiet disconnection of long-term partnership.

Her work draws on differentiation theory, the idea that intimacy grows when partners stop needing each other to regulate their feelings. That is the foundation of The Blau Method, her framework for turning insight into behavioral change. She is the founder of Boutique Psychotherapy, a Manhattan group practice, and The Blau Method Collective, a membership community.

Dr. Blau holds degrees from Syracuse University, Columbia University, and Widener University, and has published research on sexual esteem. Her first book, How Dare You, is forthcoming.

Dr. Carli Blau, PhD, LCSW, has spent more than a decade in the therapy room watching smart, self-aware people stay stuck. They can explain their patterns in detail. They just can't change them. Her work is built for that gap.

A doctoral-level sex therapist licensed in New York, New Jersey, and Florida, Dr. Blau treats sexual dysfunction and pain, desire discrepancies, infertility and trying-to-conceive stress, and the drift that sets into long-term relationships. Her clinical grounding is in couples work and differentiation theory, and she argues that low desire is rarely a hormone problem. It is usually a relationship pattern no one has named.

She created The Blau Method to move people from insight to accountability, and The Blau Method Collective to give them a place to practice it. She also founded Boutique Psychotherapy, a private-pay group practice at 303 Fifth Avenue in Manhattan, where her clinicians work at the intersection of mental health and women's hormone health.

Before becoming a therapist, Dr. Blau studied television, radio, and film at Syracuse University. She went on to earn her MSW at Columbia University and complete doctoral study in human sexuality at Widener University. She has published research on sexual esteem and speaks on sex, empowerment, and chronic illness for organizations including the Endometriosis Foundation of America and The Breasties.

Her first book, How Dare You, is for women in long-term relationships who are tired of being told the problem is them.