Why Sex Still Hurts Even After Pelvic Floor Therapy
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Why Sex Still Hurts Even After Pelvic Floor Therapy

Pelvic floor therapy can help loosen muscles and reduce pain, yet many people still experience painful sex afterward. When penetration continues to hurt despite physical treatment, it’s often because the nervous system has learned to associate penetration with threat rather than arousal. This article explains why pain can persist after pelvic floor therapy and how sex therapy helps retrain the brain–body connection so sex can feel safe, chosen, and pleasurable again.

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Why the Cold Can Lower Sexual Desire (and What Warmth Has to Do With Arousal)
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Why the Cold Can Lower Sexual Desire (and What Warmth Has to Do With Arousal)

Sexual desire is influenced by far more than attraction or relationship satisfaction — it’s deeply shaped by the nervous system and the environment. A bedroom that is too cold can subtly shift the body into survival mode, reducing arousal, sensation, and libido by prioritizing temperature regulation over pleasure. When the body feels cold, blood flow, hormonal balance, and nervous-system safety can be disrupted, making it harder for desire to emerge naturally.

This article explores the connection between bedroom temperature, sexual arousal, and emotional regulation, and explains why warmth plays a key role in intimacy. Through a sex-positive, nervous-system–informed lens, we examine how small environmental changes can meaningfully support desire, connection, and sexual well-being.

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