From My Therapy Couch to Your Bedroom: The Best Vibrators for Couples
There she sat on my couch, smiling ear to ear. Her husband next to her, across the screen of virtual couples therapy. We were beginning a session and I asked, “what makes you so happy today?” She perked up without hesitation and said, “I had 5 orgasms with my husband last night … my thighs are still shaking!”
There we sat, the three of us in my virtual office cherry red in blushing joy that they met their goal. Lots of sex, multiple orgasms and a new found happiness.
Couples often come to me at their witz end of frustration. Years together, lots of ups and downs, and as their relationship continues to grow, so does the sexual distance between them.
It’s normal.
The brain is a brilliant organ that is responsible for communication throughout your body. Whether it’s telling your organs what to do or telling you how to behave, it’s the master communicator. The thing that people often forget about brains is that they’re also behavioral organs. They operate from a place of behavioral reinforcements.
Do something that feels good, want it again.
Do something that feels bad, don’t want it again.
Sometimes our brains need a little help, and sometimes that help comes with a battery.
As a sex therapist, I often suggest couples use a vibrator in the bedroom not to replace a partner - but to enhance pleasure and arousal. Contrary to popular belief, not every woman can orgasm; and if a woman can’t orgasm or doesn’t easily, it doesn’t mean there is something “wrong” with her or her vagina.
Vibrators can help expedite the process and give the brain the positive reinforcement it needs to remember how good sexual touch can feel, and even remember to want more of it.
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Here are three vibrators from LELO, one of my favorite companies, that would fit into the moment with you and your partner. Each are small, rechargeable, waterproof and able to fit in between your bodies as you have fun together.
